An excellent article by a man, asking for men to help women end domestic violence

Let’s hear it for Dean Obeidallah!

Check out this article he penned asking his fellow men to join in the fight against domestic violence.

He says that like many men, he had no idea the extent of the carnage perpetrated by men on women. He quotes several statistics, such as the following:

“More women in the United States have been killed by their husbands and boyfriends (11,766) during the time of the Iraq and Afghanistan wars than U.S. troops fighting those wars (6,488)”

“The NYPD receives 700-plus phone calls per day from women who are victims of domestic violence”

Read the full article here. Let’s get men involved and make domestic violence a thing of the past. Too many of us are dying and being harmed irreparably by this societal scourge.

The Gift of Fear

I started reading a book this morning called The Gift of Fear, by Gavin de Becker. I haven’t gotten very far, but I did read one statistic in the first few pages that floored me.

In the United States, a woman is murdered every two hours by her spouse/significant other.

A woman. Is murdered. Every two hours. By her spouse.

We are losing 12 women per day to spousal homicide.

Excuse me, but is this not a public health crisis of a huge magnitude?

Do the math: That’s 4,380 women per year. MURDERED. By their spouses.

How many of those women have children who then become parentless? What becomes of them? And what happens to the perpetrators? Are they convicted? Do they get away with it?

I’d like to take a moment to imagine 4,380 women standing in front of you right now.

What can we do? I’m asking: What can we do?

A Democrat said this?

MP900315598I’m surprised that anyone running for office, Democrat or Republican or anything else, would say something like this:

To quote the article from the Huffington Post:

“Lloyd Oliver, a Democratic candidate for district attorney in Harris County, Texas, has a problem with domestic violence: He thinks it’s prosecuted too much.

Oliver told the Texas Observer Wednesday that domestic violence is “so, so overrated.” If elected, he indicated he’d redirect resources away from family violence to focus on other issues.

Harris County has the highest rate of domestic violence homicides in the state. According to a report by the Texas Council on Family Violence, 30 women were murdered by intimate partners in 2012.”

Do I even need to say anything about this? I didn’t think so.

Not a peep

It’s been difficult to ignore all the firestorm with Woody Allen and Dylan Farrow. Allen issued his statement, and then Dylan refuted it (brilliantly, I might add).

When can we speak?Today, I was inspired to create an image to share on my real Facebook page — using my real name. The image you see here is what I posted today (except I’ve blocked my name to publish it here).

And guess what happened?

Nothing. No one said anything. The only person who “liked” it was my husband.

Maybe no one saw it. Maybe people saw it and didn’t know what to do. Maybe they just don’t care.

I’ll post it again in a few days and see what happens. But I have to say, with all the energy and courage it took for me to put that out there — almost no one knows about my past — it was pretty anticlimactic to hear not a peep.