An excellent article by a man, asking for men to help women end domestic violence

Let’s hear it for Dean Obeidallah!

Check out this article he penned asking his fellow men to join in the fight against domestic violence.

He says that like many men, he had no idea the extent of the carnage perpetrated by men on women. He quotes several statistics, such as the following:

“More women in the United States have been killed by their husbands and boyfriends (11,766) during the time of the Iraq and Afghanistan wars than U.S. troops fighting those wars (6,488)”

“The NYPD receives 700-plus phone calls per day from women who are victims of domestic violence”

Read the full article here. Let’s get men involved and make domestic violence a thing of the past. Too many of us are dying and being harmed irreparably by this societal scourge.

A Democrat said this?

MP900315598I’m surprised that anyone running for office, Democrat or Republican or anything else, would say something like this:

To quote the article from the Huffington Post:

“Lloyd Oliver, a Democratic candidate for district attorney in Harris County, Texas, has a problem with domestic violence: He thinks it’s prosecuted too much.

Oliver told the Texas Observer Wednesday that domestic violence is “so, so overrated.” If elected, he indicated he’d redirect resources away from family violence to focus on other issues.

Harris County has the highest rate of domestic violence homicides in the state. According to a report by the Texas Council on Family Violence, 30 women were murdered by intimate partners in 2012.”

Do I even need to say anything about this? I didn’t think so.

Disagreeing with Kristof

The New York Times published a column recently by Nicholas Kristof, whom I admire and respect, called “Modern Family Matters.”

He talks about the breakdown of the family and the rise in single-parent households. He also offers some potential solutions to this situation.

However, nowhere in the column does he discuss the impact of domestic violence on families, and how many of us are forced into single parenthood — and often poverty — as a result.

As I write about in my book, the effects of this violent marriage were long-lasting and devastating, to me and to my daughter. Not only that, the long-term effects of trauma are significant and definitely reduced my lifetime earning potential.

What do you think? How might we, as a society, address domestic violence so that it will stop being so pervasive?